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Listen and Grow


Dr. Jimmy Walters
has been posting a 30 day series on healing.
Today his topic was “Listening.”
Check it out by clicking n “Day 26” below:

30 Days of Healing
as we seek to be instruments of peace and change
“Discovering God’s Vision for Your Life”
Discover “God’s Vision for Your Life”
by wearing a mask… and
Listen, Look, Smile
as we grow in
Love, Health & Healing

Dr. Jimmy said in his article,
“… listening can inform us,
guide us,
as we grow
and as we learn.”

My daughter DeAna, and her husband, Andre’ (pictured above and below here) are celebrating their 33rd anniversary today. It has been an interesting journey for them. They married when she was not quite 20 and he was 24. Young and naive, coming from a world apart – she a California girl and he a fun-loving guy who’d been working as a chef in Switzerland.

De & Andre’s wedding at UOP Chapel 1987

DeAna wore my dress and Andre’ wore Bob’s red bow tie and cummerbund as they were married in the same University of the Pacific chapel where Bob & I were wed 25 years earlier.

They remained in California four more years while De finished college, but eventually, they moved back to Andre’s hometown in Sierre, Switzerland.
He missed his mountains, his family, his culture. I don’t blame him!!! De was pregnant with our first grandchild when they left. Talk about a difficult good-bye! But hey… Switzerland…. what a beautiful place to HAVE TO visit, huh?

Life was beautiful – but, oh so different – there.

Listening to Andre’s mom, Denise, was an important part of their marital success. As the years went by, DeAna and Andre’ grew in their ability to share their minds, let their dreams be known, and listen to one another.

Today
as they anticipate
the opening of their new restaurant,
they are happier than ever.

Bob & I have been married 58 years, and we, too, are busy still learning to be better listeners. It’s a life-long process. But the effort is worth it. We, too, are happier now than ever.

Psalm 37:10-11 (MSG)

“The deeper your love, the higher it goes;
every cloud is a flag to your faithfulness.
Soar high in the skies, O God!
Cover the whole earth with Your glory!”

Today the skies revealed a slight rainbow arching the skies … look carefully:

As I stood on the porch after the rain, listening to the thunder in the hills, the robins chirped from their nest nearby and the doves flew back onto the roof to coo at one another. Listen! The earth is alive with God’s symphonies.

The rain returned – just light sprinkles, but the birds continued their songs.

Bob came out on the porch and said, “What’s for lunch?”
I responded with a shrug, “I don’t have anything planned.”
“How about a hamburger and huckleberry milkshake?” he asked.
Believe me, I listened, I heard, and … We were in the car in a jiffy.

That’s a happy smirk!

The sign over Bob’s shoulder says,
“Without ICE CREAM, Life is Darkness and Chaos.”

Without good listening,
Without open sharing of dreams,
You’ll miss out on lots of hamburgers and milkshakes!

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Now,
doesn’t that look like
“God’s Vision for Your Life”??

Listen for your Health!
Listen for your Happiness.
Don’t miss out!

See ya tomorrow…
Love and Hugs
from
JanBeek

Practicing for Divorce


No, I am not practicing for divorce!
After 58 eventful years of marriage, it’s too late to give up now!!

February 11, 1962

But life is not a bed of roses (or carnations!)
And marriage is not easy!
Nobody promised it would be.

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Sometimes we get mad at one another.
Sometimes we disappoint one another.
Sometimes we don’t understand
where the other one is coming from!

Yes, I make Bob wonder lots of times!

What Families Know

In his devotional today on Bayside Church’s on-line “Refuel,”
Andrew McCourt talked about marriage and relationships.


He titled his message, “What Families Know,” and he said,

“People who aren’t married do married things…
they are lovers practicing for divorce.”

It’s an age-old problem!

Love Without Commitment

For as long as life began – back to the days of Adam and Eve – men and women have found a way to “find each other’s cracks.” And eventually pouring into that crack can burst the container!

Eve found Adam’s crack!
And look what happened…

Andrew McCourt offered some suggestions for how to relate to one another in genuine love that does not seek to “find the crack” – but rather seeks to FILL AND FULFILL.

Andrew said something to this effect,

“What successful married folks know is this:
there is an order to successful relationships.

First, you stand together shoulder to shoulder
(Don’t let kids or anyone else get between you).

Second, you stand or sit together face-to-face
(You look each other in the eye and you communicate).

Third, you do the bellybutton-to-bellybutton thing
(You love each other emotionally and physically).”

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Reverse Order

Andrew said, “When we get that order of things reversed, that’s when we start Practicing for Divorce.”

When did this whole thing of living together first to try it out before getting married come into being?

I have a biased (informed, of course) opinion about that! I think “Three’s Company” is the culprit.

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Living Together Out of Wedlock

I couldn’t find a picture of those three folks (a guy and two gals) who lived together in an apartment in NYC on a TV show back in the 70’s or early 80’s, but it was funny and popular and it made it look like it was okay for unmarried people of the opposite sex to live together. “Three’s Company” was one of my mom’s favorite shows. And she would be considered a prude by today’s standards.

When my niece lived with a guy before marriage in NYC, my mom said it was a great idea because it made her safer in an unsafe city!

See how media can change our idea of right and wrong?

Ah, here: I found a video. It was a darling TV show!

Bayside’s “Refuel” Podcast

If you want to hear Andrew McCourt himself
and his actual words on the subject,
try this link:
bit.ly/devo021020
I have that on my iPhone and it takes me there.

On With My Day

‘Tis time for me to get on with my day. Tomorrow is our actual anniversary… 58 years. It’s not always been a bed of roses, but the key ingredient always has been there:

RESPECT

Yup, that’s the bottom line!
So, whatever your relationship…
whether it’s three’s company,
living with your lover,
or married,
keep that RESPECT alive!

And there are a few other tips
for how to keep from practicing for divorce, too.
I’ll save those for tomorrow.

Thanks for visiting JanBeek
I hope I haven’t offended any of you out there.

See ya later!

Most Beautiful Things


Beautiful Things
Are sometimes visible things;
Most = Invisible!

This Persian’s pretty;
Her purr’s the absolute best –
And the love she gives.

These roses are grand,
But their fragrance is the best;
And their “giver” too!

This bird is gorgeous,
But its song is the greatest –
And its Creator!

This scene’s amazing;
But the peaceful feelings here
Are magnificent.

Adorable child –
She’s so beautiful to see,
Her trusting heart’s best!

The cake’s impressive,
But memories are more grand.
Beautiful moments!

(By the way that’s us: Bob & Jan… 57 3/4 years ago)

The moments, feelings,
The sweet smiles and the laughter –
That’s where beauty lives.

Life’s luxuriant
When people and places reign.
Beautiful visions!

Thank you for being
A beautiful part of my life
In my WordPress World.
You add JOY by your presence.

See you later!

Who Gives This Bride?


Tearfully and joyfully our son said, “Her mother and I do.”

The Father-Daughter dance:

The misty-eyed mom:

I’m with the bride’s other grandma & a best friend… enjoying the festivities.

Congratulations to the adorable new Mr & Mrs McSparron!

It was an amazing wedding day.

God Bless You, Kyle & Faith.

What a beautiful day!

We had an early celebration of my 80th. So fun!

All the Beekman siblings & their spouses gathered. All four couples have been married 55 years or more! A great legacy for the newlyweds!

How was your day, my friends?

See ya tomorrow.

Sharing Multiplies Joy – Haiku x7


Sharing special days

Like our anniversary

Makes them more special

Inviting good friends

To celebrate days with us

Increases friendship

Generously share

Days of sweet significance

Multiply your joy

Share a lovely meal

Happy Birthday, dear friend, at

Sacajawea!

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First picture up there

Was seven short years ago

Here’s fifty-seven!

Wonderful wedding

Beautiful cake and event

My how the time flies!!

Have we changed a lot?

Inside we are still the same

Keeping love alive!

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Tell me about some sharing you’ve done that multiplied your joy!

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