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Drama, Conflict & Stress


Set Boundaries

In my conversation with my friend over lunch yesterday, she reminded me that I need to set boundaries. She suggested that if there is too much drama, conflict or stress in my life, it is because I have not set my own boundaries. I have allowed those elements to invade my peace.

Choices

Do you have drama, conflict, or stress in your life? Is there a way to eliminate those negatives and invite only positives in my life? What choices do I have?

Sometimes the stress and drama come from family, dearly beloved family. Does setting boundaries mean I should eliminate them from my life? Would that make me happier? Does having a cozy home, good food, and limiting my contacts to only “Happy People” mean I would have a better life?

No, my choice is to love those family members unconditionally – and invite them into my “cozy home” and share with them my “good food” and if they are not “happy people,” then pray that my patience, generosity, and love offered unconditionally can bring them some joy.

Sharing

Sharing what we have is what the “Christmas Spirit” is all about. You may not be able to eliminate the drama, conflict, and stress in your life. Not unless you want to alienate those people God has placed in your life … those people who create troublesome circumstances in their own lives as well as yours.

Is that what Jesus teaches? Only deal with happy people? Is that what He did? Think about it.

What do you think?

Let me hear from you!

See ya later!

Running Low


Are you running low?
Finding energy is scarce?
Go to your refuel.

Where’s your refuel place?
Is it visiting a friend?
I did that today.

Took time to converse
With a compassionate soul.
Did a world of good!

“Refuel” is a place
On the web by Bayside Church.
It’s one place to fuel.

Refuel by blogging.
Refuel by singing a song.
Refuel by walking.

It’s necessary;
Self-care’s a priority
Not a luxury.

If you’re out of gas,
You can’t help others or YOU.
STOP, rest, breathe and PRAY.

Let God fill you up
With His compassionate love.
It’s better than gas!

Have a Happy Wednesday!
See ya tomorrow.

Tired of Normal


I’m feeling tired
Pretending to be normal
Can be exhausting

You know it’s more fun
To let your quirkiness show
And lots less tiring!

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How weird can you be
And still be considered sane?
Who needs sanity?

May your smile be wide
Normal is overrated
Let craziness reign

Weird, unique, and a bit crazy at times, but wonderful, indeed!

What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever done?

Some folks thought the craziest thing I did was to quit my teaching job mid-year and marry a guy I hadn’t even seen in six months and take off for Germany with him. They said it wouldn’t last. That was nearly 58 years ago!

Can you recall a time when you did something that made others say, “You’re crazy?” How did it work out?

See ya tomorrow.

Who Hears Your Sorrow?


Who hears your sorrow
When it’s hidden in your heart?
Only those who care

Be the one who cares
Listen closely with your heart
Practice love each day

Be that very one
Who hears the hidden sorrow
And reaches to love

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Have a Blessed Saturday.
See ya later.

Hugs from JanBeek

Beautiful People


You are beautiful
You’re loving and you’re sincere
You care and you share

Love is palpable
With smiles on both their faces
Inner beauty shines


Beautiful people
Reach out to others in love
In all walks of life

People like Bob Goff
Reach out and help folks “Dream Big”
He knows that “Love Does”

Beautiful people
Look for those who are hurting
And they lift them up

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You can lift them up
You don’t have to be a priest
To be used by God

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Just being yourself,
Your beautiful loving self,
Is more than enough


You are beautiful
Your unconditional love
Enlarges your heart

Hearts are expanding
With each act of sincere love
You exude pure joy

Beautiful person,
– Sami, Elko, Nevada –
Shares love at her work

Make the world better
Be the beautiful person
God made you to be

Do you know you are a Beautiful Person?
I do!

SEE YA LATER

As I Get Older


As I get older, I realize:

  • things aren’t so urgent
  • laughter is a great anecdote for stress
  • it’s okay to be a bit off color
  • forgiveness is imperative
  • friends are priceless treasures
  • love dissolves distances
  • I may not always be right
  • But then again…
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Groucho Marx was one of my favorite comedians. He and Red Skelton always made my dad laugh. I can still remember him sitting in front of our black and white picture on the TV back in the late 40s, laughing til his eyes were teary at Groucho’s jokes. As I recall a few I am reminded that humor really is a way to share kindness because when we laugh, the “endorfins” brighten our spirit and feed the corners of our brains.

As I grow older, I remember it’s important to
Lighten up and laugh more often! Groucho said,

“Outside of a dog, a book is man’s best friend,
inside a dog, it’s too dark to read.”

“Those are my principles, and if you don’t like them…
well, I have others.”

“Politics is the art of looking for trouble,
finding it everywhere, diagnosing it incorrectly,
and applying the wrong remedies.”

“Time flies like an arrow, fruit flies like a banana.”

“I’ve had a perfectly wonderful evening.
But this wasn’t it.”

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Don’t you love that Santa picture? Reminds me that everyday is a gift…
And we shouldn’t wait for once a year to open it.
Keep the sparkle alive as you grow older –
And make every day a day of
… kindness
… gratitude
… and remembering why you walked into that room!

See ya later!

Be Kind


Yesterday’s Blog

When I posted my blog yesterday (Speak Kindly), I mentioned that November is a month devoted to Thanksgiving (at least here in the USA that’s our focus). In addition to this attitude of Gratitude, I sent out an invitation to make it a month of KINDNESS. “Let’s make Kindness a HABIT,” I suggested.

In the Comments Section

My daughter who lives in Switzerland (and who reads my blog daily – thank you, DeDe), wrote a comment saying, “It should be that way every month of the year!”

Cultivating Kindness

She’s right, of course. It should be! If you search under the tag of Kindness on WordPress, you will discover it is a topic well covered. It’s not written about because it is an automatic human response, unfortunately. Kindness is something we really need to cultivate.

In Samantha’s blog,

The Art of Being Fabulous

Random acts of kindness is back!

By: Samantha Wharton In: Self

Samantha wrote,

“Lately, in the news, all I hear about are all the negative things happening.  I would like to focus on positivity.

It doesn’t take much to do something kind for someone.”

Then she listed some suggestions. Check out her blog.

Is Kindness that Hard?

In her blog, Sunday Sayings – Kindness, Forestwood wrote,

“Throughout our lives, we constantly hear sageful advice such as:

‘Treat one another as you would like to be treated yourself ‘– That wise old Confucian saying of ‘Do Unto Others as You would have Done Unto You.

“We hear this, we know this, well most of us implicitly know this, yet often despite this, ego takes over. People might become selfish, or narcissistic, or begin to look-out, only for themselves.”

Kindness Affects Our Mental Health

When our “Reptilian Brain” has its needs met (food, shelter and clothing), then we don’t have to focus on our survival. We don’t have to respond to life with the “Me First” attitude. We can reach out with our thoughts and our prayers, our words and our actions, to exhibit genuine kindness to others. In so doing, our own mental health is uplifted – and we find the world to be a better place. Better, because we are the kindness we want to see – and what we send into the lives of others, comes back into our own.

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Reach out to someone with kindness today.
Make it intentional!

See ya later.

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