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Outgrow and Grow


What have you outgrown?
Did you toss or leave behind?
What is worth keeping?

Life is a journey
With daily choices;
Keep what’s important!

Make new; keep the old
Friends are never discarded –
Not your soul sister!

Thais is my friend –
She was my college roommate –
My wedding bridesmaid.

Bruce and Ann are friends
Who also are related:
Bob’s younger brother.

Never Outgrow

We never outgrow our good friends
They live and grow in our heart
And if we are very fortunate
Our family and we never part
.
We never outgrow deep abiding faith
It stays in our souls and it grows
With each passing day in wonderful ways
It sustains and inspires as love flows.
.
With luck and the grace of our Lord,
We retain the most important part:
Good health, curiosity, a keen alert mind,
And a life full of friends who never depart.

Marcie’s table set for tonight’s dinner

We’re ready for a table full of good friends, long-time buddies with whom we’ve kept in touch through the years. If you had a table for a dozen friends tonight, who would you invite?

Thanks for dropping by JanBeek

See ya tomorrow.

No Friend like an Old Friend


There is an old saying that goes like this,
“There’s no friend like an old friend.”

I choose to say it this way,
“There’s no friend like a long-time friend.”

Can you spot me smiling there in the midst of my buddies?

We’re not old… we’re forever young at heart!
We, the heart of the “Turlock Union High School Class of ’57”
Met at Latif’s Restaurant in Turlock yesterday.
Doris and I came from out of state.
It was such a joy to see everyone doing so well.
None of us used a walker or came in an electric wheelchair.
That’s actually pretty amazing given the fact we’re all in our 80’s.

This is my “old” high school sweetheart (such a nice guy)
with one of my best girlfriends, Sally.
He actually is one of the people
who introduced me to my husband, Bob.
Sally is the one who sends out the e-mails
to get this reunion group together.
Arlene is another of my best high school buddies.
She had a “gym” behind her house
where we used to gather on Friday nights to dance.
My friend, Phil, is one of the guys who taught me to dance.
We have kept in touch through the years.
Such a sweetheart!!
Betty, Linda, and Nelda are girlfriends
who actually knew my husband, Bob,
before I met him.
Bob went to a neighboring high school,
but attended church in Turlock.
Some of these gals were in his Sunday School class from day one!
Doris, Jeannine (she won’t like this picture),
and Mary are girlfriends with whom I never have lost touch.
Doris joined this reunion, coming from her home in Texas.
Jeannine and I see each other annually.
Mary is the one I’ve known the longest.
We went to elementary school together
and were “neighbors” in Crows Landing, California.
(Neighbors can be 10 miles from each other
when you grow up out in the country!)


Do you have “long-time friends” with whom you stay in touch?
It is such a blessing!!

This long-time friend is Ty and his wife, Roxanne.
Ty was my kindergarten student in 1963!!
I love this “kid” so much that in 1965
I named my son, Ty.
Ty & Roxanne came in 2018 to visit Bob & me in Montana.
And this long-time friend was my first grade student in 1961. Can you believe it?
Talk about JOY!
Lorei and I have maintained our relationship
for HOW MANY years??
And this long-time friend is Ly, my hairdresser since 1979.
This afternoon I have an appointment with her in Modesto.
Whenever we return to California
and are going to be in the Turlock-Modesto area
for a day or more, I make a point to see Ly again.

No post about long-time friends would be complete without a picture and mention of my dear Marcie. She’s here in Turlock. We stay with her when we come back to the valley. We are soul-sisters. She’s a gift from God.

I pray that as you read about these long-term relationships,
you are inspired to reconnect with long-time friends of your own.
Maybe there is a person out there that you have lost touch with.
Someone you care about.
Reach out today!

Love those long-time friends!!

See ya tomorrow.

Bird Photography


About 25 years ago Bob and I met Gérald Theurillat in Valais, Switzerland.

He and his wife, Celia, are friends of our daughter and her husband.

In the years since we first met “Theu,” he has retired and has become a phenomenal photographer of birds in his region.

Gérald Theurillat has a FaceBook page where you can see more of his wonderful photos and learn the names of these gorgeous animals. I recommend you visit him there if you love birds as I do, and if you want to learn more.

Leave a comment on Theu’s FB page – and tell him “JanBeek sent me.”

Have a Wonderful Weekend, my friends.

Today is the day Bob & I pack
and
get ready to leave this beautiful spot.

Canadian geese in Rancho Mirage –
I wish Theu could photograph these birds.
You’d see them a lot better through his camera lens!

We’ll leave early tomorrow morning.
Pray for our safe travels, okay?
Next destination is Turlock, in central California,
where I graduated from Turlock Union High School
back in 1957
(yes, I know… that makes me ancient!) –
But, no, I don’t feel old!

(BTW, I get to meet on Monday
with a bunch of my class of ’57 girlfriends.
Ain’t that a fun thing to anticipate?)

Like Theu’s beautiful birds,
I still am soaring high
and loving every minute!

Visit Gérald Theurillat ‘s website
and let him know
you appreciate
his wonderful photography
as much as I do.

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for the fun of celebrating
the announcement of my 1,000th post.

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Aging Gracefully


Window Shopping

This week Bob & I visited El Paseo Drive in Palm Springs, CA. It was a beautiful day to window shop those exquisite boutiques. But, ooh-la-lah, heaven forbid we go inside!! The prices are out of sight! However, if is is not a lovely shirt or a cute, little apron with a cute saying on it, then it is a convincing salesman with a free gift he is handing out in sweet little bags.

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Stepping Inside

I made the mistake of accepting the bag and then being drawn into his shop where he had a “Miracle Cream.” He invited me to sit down so he could put it around one of my eyes. “Look at how it removes the puffiness and lightens the dark bags,” he said.

Bob followed me in and the slick salesman invited him to come and see how much better that eye looked. “We men don’t care about the aging process,” he told Bob. “But women – they care – and your wife would love this cream. If it can do this much in one very short treatment, imagine what it can do with weekly treatments over a few months!”

The salesman offered to throw in an additional jar of “finishing cream” for FREE …. if we would buy one jar of the miracle cream.

“How much?” Bob asked.

“Only two hundred…” he paused before quietly adding “ninety-nine” at the same time Bob was gasping at 200 and missed the 99. Wow, only $300. for that miracle cream. A bargain! Just think it’ll last a month or more!!

Aging Like Sea Glass

Yes, I have a well-earned patina! Yes, I add a few wrinkles with each passing year. Yes, my skin lacks the freshness of my youth. Yes, I care about AGING. In fact, I embrace it! It’s not true that men don’t care about it. They want to age like sea glass, too.

External vs. Internal Beauty

Photo by Nandhu Kumar on Pexels.com

I want the wrinkles that come with age to be a beauty that expresses my inner peace and radiates my inner joy. This dear photo by Nandhu Kumar depicts a lovely lady whose face sparkles with an inner beauty and a well-earned patina that is envious! Don’t you agree?

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This sweet man’s face and his gesture of affection radiates a love so real, so dear, so beautiful that only the waves of time can achieve it. His face reflects his journey – and the changes he has gone through to achieve that beauty. Hers, on the other hand appears to have endured many fewer tumbles through the tide. Maybe she’s his daughter … or maybe she used that “magic cream.” Her face doesn’t reflect the inner glow, however wrinkle-free it may be, does it? She looks a little apprehensive to me.

Outer Beauty

Don’t get me wrong; I am not opposed to outer beauty!! I don’t knock those who get monthly facials or buy expensive creams or have face lifts. (I actually put a pretty costly cream on my face every morning. It’s a Lacome – designed as a sunscreen and wrinkle reducer – hah!)

Look at this lovely “elderly” model. She has a job that requires special care of hair and skin. Gotta look good on camera! A few lines add character, don’t you agree? The only way to avoid those lines is to stop smiling, stop frowning, stop expressing emotion. Even Botox doesn’t take them all away!!

Yes, I’d like to reduce my frown marks (those railroad tracks on my forehead). I was warned when I was in my twenties that this would happen if I didn’t stop frowning. But how do you keep a straight face when you’re teaching a room full of twelve year olds or scolding a 4th grader who just punched a classmate? Why should you keep from smiling when you’re confronted with a class of giggling kindergarteners? How do you avoid the wrinkles on your nose when that’s what your face does a million times a day? My dog, TazE, doesn’t seem to mind!

Ride the Waves and Go With the Flow

I want to age like sea glass. I want my hard edges to soften. I want to be picked up gently and admired by those who appreciate what these 80 years of life have meant to them and to me… what I’ve learned, and what I can pass along. I want to enjoy the journey, and always remember to be grateful for each day the Good Lord gives to me. I want to ride the waves and go with the flow.

You with me?

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Ride the waves with me…
and share your wisdom, too.
How do you feel about aging?

Got any advice re: anti-wrinkle stuff??

See ya tomorrow!

My Prayer For You


We had a wonderful day yesterday – the day of Bob’s 81st birthday. It started at our son’s house in Placerville where happiness definitely knocked on our door and entered in full array!

We went to church with our family at “Jesus Culture” in Folsom. We filled a row in the congregation of more than 1,500 people. It was amazing! Every seat was filled. People were standing in the aisles. The music and the message were God-inspired.

After church we visited dear, long-time friends whom we had not seen in a decade. We learned that our friend has stayed in touch with us (between years of Christmas cards) by following my Facebook posts. She doesn’t click “like” or leave a message, so I had no idea that she was one of my regular followers. When we got together, the years dissolved … and it was like we had never been apart. Do you have friends like that?

After that wonderful visit, with a delicious lunch and memorable, heart-felt, warm conversation, we returned to our son’s house where we celebrated Bob’s 81st birthday. Our daughter-in-law and granddaughter made Bob’s favorite birthday “cake,” a Jamoca-Almond-Fudge pie. Mmmm!

I pray that the happiness we feel be in your heart today. May it knock on your door, stay late, and leave the gifts of peace, love, joy and good health behind.

Happy December 30th.
Have a wonderful day.
See ya tomorrow.

Teach Us to Number


Psalm 90:12
(The prayer of Moses – the man of God)

“Teach us to number our days,
that we may gain a heart of wisdom.”

80th Birthday – 2018

A year ago this day, we also were here in Placerville with our son and his family, joined by friends who came to celebrate Bob’s 80th birthday. The picture above shows Bob with the card Ty & Monika created for him using candy bars to accentuate the message.

Aging Gracefully?

The days between then and now find us both slowing down a bit. He finds it necessary to catch cat naps during the day more often. Outdoor chores take a toll on the back and leg muscles. Physical activities (like downhill skiing) are still fun, but hours on the slopes, taking the double diamond runs, without a break… well that’s not a good idea anymore.

How can we accept the aging process that seems to limit our energy? Well, duh … what’s the alternative? We die – or we become grumpy – or we listen to our bodies and take those breaks when the need arises! Aging gracefully means thanking God for all the things we CAN still do … and not focusing on the things we CAN’T do anymore… at least not at the speed and length of time we used to. Right?

Number our Days

We know our days are numbered… and only God has the answer. We know Jesus Christ promised He would come again and take all who believe with Him to our eternal home. Only God has the number of that day, too. So, our job is not to worry about what the numbers are, but to live fully for as long as He gives us.

Living Fully

That photo of Bob with our son, Ty, granddaughter, Faith, and her husband, Kyle was taken at our house in Montana last Thanksgiving.

A year ago Bob went skiing with Ty & Faith here in the Sierra Nevada mountains. This year, the crowds and the conditions caused Bob to say, “Let’s wait til we come back through in January and ski then.”

Someday Bob’s skiing may be limited to pulling our great-grandchildren on a sled in the snow… that is if we are fortunate enough to live long enough to gracefully accept the limitations that numbered days may bring!

Meantime, there are spring times and summers, autumns and early winters when the fishing is great in Ennis, Montana…

And there is always yard work that beckons him to keep the lawn trimmed, the flowers healthy, and the weeds at bay…

… and in the winter there is rarely a time when there is not snow to shovel!

We look forward to the numbered day on our ATV when we can enjoy with friends the beauty of the mountain trails above our Madison Valley.

Gain a Heart of Wisdom

Yes, looking at what we CAN do and not dwelling on the things we find more difficult to do as we add to the number of our days… that’s part of wisdom.

So is taking time daily to read God’s Word, and apply his principles to our lives.

In Psalm 90,
Moses’ prayer also says,
(in verse 10)
“Our days may come to seventy years,
or eighty, if our strength endures;
yet the best of them are but trouble and sorrow,
for they quickly pass and fly away.”

Thank God, Bob can say, “The best of them are here and now… and with God’s blessings the best are also yet to come.”

They may quickly pass (as we age they seem to fly by more quickly with each sunrise and sunset), but we do not focus on the trouble and sorrow.

Focus on your blessings, my friends. Focus on the CANS, not the CAN’Ts!!

Enjoy each day… and look for the wisdom it contains.

BOB!

Thanks for visiting JanBeek
on the occasion of this wonderful 81st birthday.

See ya tomorrow.

Making Memories


Lunches on Wednesday

Very special memories

Never forgotten

Burger King – a favorite with my 4 grandchildren – around 2003.

Back in 2003 Sam (the oldest) often chose McDonald’s for our Wednesday lunch date. It was always fun… especially when Ronald McDonald showed up!

See the older granddaughter in those pictures up there? Here she is today – with her adorable son & daughter.

Bob & I had lunch with our granddaughter and two great-grandchildren today – McDonald’s revisited- but we were missing the old Ronald McDonald atmosphere. Just ain’t the same!

Sienna & Xander with their great-grandma – that’s me!

Taking your grandkids (and great-grandkids, if you’re blessed to live long enough) to lunch is a wonderful way to make memories.

Grampy doesn’t get to join us very often. Sienna was not sure about this guy! (Isn’t her expression a riot?)

It was so nice to be together… and to have the children’s paternal grandma join us, too. Four generations!

Isn’t she adorable? Don’tcha just wanna kiss those chubby cheeks?

Sienna’s shirt says, “Eat, sleep, and be merry!” It’s easy to be merry when 4 generations get to share and make memories at McDonald’s.

Happy Christmas weekend, dear Blogging friends!

What did you do to make memories today?

Take pictures.
Someday they’ll look as archaic as this one:

Thanks for visiting JanBeek.
Have a good night.
See ya tomorrow.

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