Loving One Another

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7 Habits of Effective Lovers


Loving is Connecting.
Blogging is Connecting.

My blog, “Loving One Another” is all about how to love, encourage, and inspire one another. Cristian Mihai of “The Art of Blogging” says we need to be able to express in 6 words or less why we blog and what we blog about.

I answered his query saying,
“I spread love and inspiration daily.”
That’s six words.

I augmented my answer by adding,
“I plan to inspire, inform, entertain, and encourage.”

I find pictures to enhance my messages.
And I am inspired by other bloggers’ messages.
Hopefully we shine on one another.

If we want to shine, to inspire and encourage others, to be unconditional, effective lovers, are there some tips we need to keep in mind?

Yes, I believe there are habits that lovers of people, lovers of animals, lovers of nature and of God, need to develop. I think they include these SEVEN HABITS OF EFFECTIVE LOVERS:

1. Listening with Intent

Effective lovers perk up their ears and really hear the voices, the sounds, the cries and laughter, the heart of everything around them.

2. Seeing non-judgmentally

Effective lovers look for the best in others. They see what they’re looking for. They see the person, animal or object as the Creator intended them/it to be. They imagine perfection, wholeness, beauty. They bring out the love that’s embedded in what they see.

3. Feeling with Compassion & Empathy

Effective lovers feel what others are feeling. They are compassionate and empathetic … not sympathetic. They don’t look at someone or something and say, “Oh, I feel so sorry for you/it.” They try to put themselves in the others’ shoes. They look for solutions. They offer real help. They fertilize the dying bush or bring the parched animal a drink.

4. Reaching Out

Effective lovers extend a helping hand without being asked. Their “feelers” are out looking for ways to help. They have a servant’s heart.

5. Taking Time

A habit effective lovers develop is the act of taking time for others. Whether it is visiting a friend who’s sick, caring for a pet while its owner is away, watering a garden, going to a nursing home, building a birdhouse or helping to complete a project, the effective lover is ever ready.

6. Praying

Knowing your own power is limited, knowing we’re all imperfect mortals who need divine guidance, effective lovers pray for others, pray for world peace, pray for endangered species and help in times of disasters and seemingly insurmountable struggles. Effective lovers reach for help beyond themselves.

We know our own limitations, and we know our own weaknesses. We know we do not always exhibit the kindness, patience and gentleness that effective lovers need. So, we ask for divine guidance and help from the One who strengthens us.

7. Tenacity

Effective lovers have staying power. They are tenacious. They are in it for the long haul. They are not quick to let go. Instead, they continue to love through thick and thin.

Like this beautiful spider web that is covered with snow, but hanging on for dear life as the wind howls outside my sanctuary, this web has a job to do. It will capture any insects that survive the storm … it will provide food for the spider that created it. It hangs on and fulfills its given purpose.

Substitute “children” in the message above
for “friends” or “spouse”
or “pets” or whatever fits for you.
What is your purpose that you are living to fulfill?

Being an Effective Lover involves listening, seeing, feeling, reaching, taking time, praying, and being tenacious… and it’s worth all that effort because you know:

“What you bring into the lives of others comes back into your own.”

Do you agree with these 7 habits or qualities
for “Effective Lovers”?
Do you have others you might add?

Tell me!

God Bless You!

See ya tomorrow

Glimpse of Paradise


Eye of the Heart

A glimpse of Paradise
Is here in the heart
Of a home where love is –
Where living is an art.

We each carry a paradise
With us here on earth.
It’s in hearts of compassion.
It’s in expressions of mirth.

When we count all our blessings
Living a life of gratitude,
Heaven is felt and seen
In the joy of our attitude.

Edward Hays wrote this story in his book, Feathers on the Wind,

Once upon a time there was a woman who longed to find out what heaven was like. She prayed constantly, “O God, grant me in this life a vision of paradise.” She prayed in this way for years until one night she had a dream. In her dream, an angel came and led her to heaven. They walked down a street in paradise until they came to an ordinary looking house.The angel, pointing toward the house, said, “Go and look inside.”

So the woman walked in the house and found a person preparing supper, another reading a newspaper, and children playing with their toys. Naturally she was disappointed, and returned to the angel on the street. “Is this all there is to heaven?”

The angel replied, “Those people that you saw in the house are not in paradise. Paradise is in them!”

Paradise is not distant.
It’s the place where we live –
If the Son shines within us
And His love is what we give.

Hark, my Blogging Friend,
What is it I see?
Is that a glimpse of paradise
I see in thee?

Oh, by the way,
I saw this quote below posted by Cristian Mihai
this morning on his “The Art of Blogging.”
He was giving us tips
(as he does EVERY day)
on how to be better bloggers.
One of his recommendations was this:

“Decide on a realistic posting frequency
For me this is every single day, without exception. For you, it may be every other day or twice a week. Whatever you decide on, announce it to your readers on your blog. Announcing it accomplishes two things. One, you’re creating and managing your reader’s expectations of when new content will be posted. Two, you’re making yourself accountable to your readership. It’s harder to blow off posting when you know there’s a bunch of people out there who are expecting to see something new on a given day.”

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So, taking his tip to heart, I am here to tell you, I blog at least once daily. This is my 313th day of consecutive blogging. I’ve been at it for more than six years, but I got serious 313 days ago. It’s paying off because you can count on me… and so I can count on you, too.

For example, on 7/6/19 I had a wonderful 550 followers. I was on a roll… and now, less than 50 days later, I have 614 followers. For those of you with thousands of followers, this might not be a big deal, but for me, it proves the importance of tenacity.

It’s the number of you who click into my blog and the ones who click “like,” and most importantly the ones who leave a comment – those are the folks who keep me going, give me encouragement, and help me know I am not blogging into empty space. Thank you!!

Sending love
back atcha!

See ya tomorrow…
if not sooner!
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Hands Tell The Story


Look at the hands in this picture of my son and daughter-in-law as they watch their youngest daughter in her first dance as a new bride. The hands tell a story.

I looked at my old, wrinkled, arthritic hands as I read this lovely post- and as I walked memory lane, decided to share this thoughtfully written blog with you – via “Old” Hands Gave LIFE

Tender Touch


Tender Touch

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There’s nothing like a tender touch

To chase away the blues.

You need someone who really cares

Friends and family who choose

To stick by you through thick and thin –

To be there when you’re hurting –

To hold your hand and hug your heart

To lend a listening ear instead of skirting

Past the issues that weigh you down.

There’s nothing like a tender touch

To lift you up and bring you love

And show you that they care so much.

 

Love in Action

I used the wonderful photo below by Kristin De Soto last weekend when writing about Being Pretty on the inside… and showing it with loving actions. I love the intergenerational nature of it … and the evidence of hard working DOING. Action… not just talking about it. TOUCH that lifts and supports.

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The Need for Touch

In this month’s In Touch Magazine (Daily Readings for Devoted Living by Charles Stanley), on June 27th, the title was “The Touch That Transforms.” The devotional began with a reference to Matthew 8:1-4, the scripture that tells about Jesus’ touch healing the leper.

Charles Stanley wrote, “The need for touch from a fellow human being has not disappeared in the 2,000 years since Jesus walked the earth.”

And yet, the author continues, “Physical touch is being replaced with ‘likes’ on Facebook. And when we do think of touch, it’s often associated with scandal, impropriety, or immorality.” He asks us, “How did this wonderful word become so maligned?”

Operative Word: Tender

As I suggested in my Tender Touch poem above, it doesn’t have to be that way! The word “touch” does not need to bring shivers of fear or shadows of doubt. The operative word is TENDER! 

As followers of God, people who know and try to live by the Golden Rule, we have the opportunity to “touch” people in a variety of ways. We can use our hands, our talents, our time through service to exhibit compassion and encouragement. Our sincere hugs and our gentle pats on the back are signs that we truly care … and the recipients can feel it!

Keep it Simple

The touch of love doesn’t need to be expensive. Give the gift of caring. Keep it simple!

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As bloggers, we can use our words to touch people’s hearts. Face-to-face is best, but sometimes that’s not possible. So, a card of sympathy, encouragement or inspiration, an e-mail to reach out, a phone call to just say “Hello, I was thinking of you. How are you?” or a text to show you’re thinking of them all are great ways to “touch” the loved ones we can’t reach physically.

 

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Be a Part of the Solution

Here are some don’ts:

  • Don’t let physical touch be replaced with FaceBook “likes.”
  • Don’t let the word TOUCH become maligned and only associated with abuse.
  • Don’t shy away from reaching out to others in positive ways with the gift of touch.

And here are some do’s:

  • Tenderly reach out to those around you.
  • Touch others through prayer, knowing that God hears, and your loved ones will feel it!
  • Write or call those who are out of physical reach and let them know you care.

 

There’s nothing like a tender touch

To chase away the blues.

Bee the one who lifts and supports!

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Thanks for caring and for sharing your compassion.
heart of love
See ya after church with my sermon notes.
Have a Happy Sunday morning!

Being Pretty


Being Pretty

Do you ever fret
About outside appearance?
What worries you so?

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You know it is not
Outside that really matters.
Focus on inside!

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Just bee pretty kind.
And bee funny and cheerful.
Bee smart and bee strong.

Hang on pretty tight to one another!!

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Kindness, humor, wisdom
and inner strength…

Those are the special
Beauties that matter most.
Enhance and show them!

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Thanks for reading and commenting,
dear beautiful blogging friends.
Your inner beauty shines through.

I appreciate you!!
You have ’em!!

Tell me which of those inner beauty
qualities are the greatest strengths of yours.
heart of love
See ya tomorrow.

Positive Language


Positive Language

Recently I saw this posted on FaceBook:

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One FB reader responded to this post by writing, “Hmmm. Sometimes no words are needed. If in public hold child sideways around their middle (so feet and arms can’t wack you) and calmly walk out and go home. Child quickly learns after this is done several times that this behavior means going home without the fun or the goodies. (Best advice a pediatric doctor gave me). Even if it means leaving a cart full of groceries in the store.”

Another reader said it applies to toddlers and the elderly!

I said I think some of these may apply to us ALL!

Ask Me Any Day

  • How may I help you?
  • Are you okay?
  • Why are you feeling sad (angry – hurt – upset – etc.)?
  • Can you tell me what happened?
  • Do you need a hug?

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Always!!

We’re never too young or too old to be treated with compassion. I ALWAYS need a hug!!

The ROCKITMAMA.COM post suggested this positive language might “tame a temper tantrum.”

I suggest it might avoid one, too. And – regardless of the age –  it might help avoid hurt feelings, misunderstandings, and callous attitudes.

I will try always to use positive language in the face of agitation.

How about you?

Have a Wonderful Wednesday!

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See ya tomorrow.

 

What Do You Yearn For?


What Do You Yearn For?

Today’s letter in the A-Z series
on Finding More Meaning
and Greater Purpose
in Life
is “Y”

The Word is “Yearning”

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When you look at this picture, what do you see?
I see more than a dog and a girl and a tall, dark tree –
I see more than a grove and a road to light –
I see something for which I pray each night.

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I see the peace for which I yearn – 

the Lord, to whom I turn –
I see a road that lets me in – 
And the path where I begin.

 

In their song, “Somewhere Only We Know,”
the Sons of Serendip sing of this place: 
“Why don’t we go somewhere only we know?”
Some of the lyrics say, “I found the earth at my feet…
Walked by a river and it made me complete…
There’s a place we used to love;
Is this the place I’ve been dreaming of?”

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I’m dreaming today of that place on earth
Where only peace abides;
Where folks can hear differing opinions
And find no need to take sides.
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I pray to find at the end of the tunnel
The Love of Christ everywhere on earth,
The peace that passes understanding
That was our gift when Mary gave birth.
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I yearn to place my feet, my soul
On the spot where only love can grow,
Where labels end and hate is gone,
Where love and compassion are all we show.

In their book, Spiritual Literacy,
Frederic & Mary Ann Brussat
wrote this about Yearning:

“Follow your heart’s boundless desire.
It takes you out of yourself
and fosters an appreciation for
the multidimensional pleasures of life.”

What do YOU yearn for?

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See you tomorrow… the Z Day of this series!

 

 

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