A peaceful Sunday
Is my prayer for you today
I’ll see you later
Posts tagged ‘acceptance’
A peaceful Sunday
Ten Ways to Keep Marriage Alive
Bob and I have been married more than 57 years. Our love for one another is more alive today than it ever has been. (I read that statement to him just now and asked if he agreed. Of course, he said, “Of course,” That’s part of the secret, guys! Ya gotta readily agree on things like that!)
How do we do it? How do we keep love alive after all these years? What is a healthy marriage anyway?
Jane Smiley, in her book, At Paradise Gate, wrote the following:
“You know what getting married is? It’s agreeing to take this person who right now is at the top of his form, full of hopes and ideas, feeling good, wildly interested in you because you’re the same way, and sticking by him while he slowly disintegrates. And he does the same for you. You’re his responsibility now, and he is yours. If no one else will take care of him, you will. If everyone else rejects you, he won’t.
What do you think love is? Going to bed all the time? Poo! Don’t be weak. Have some spine! He’s yours and you’re his. He doesn’t beat you or abuse you, and you’ve made the same bargain. Now that you know what it’s like to be married, now that all the gold leaf has sort of worn off, you can make something of it; you can really learn to love each other.”
I love that take on marriage by Jane Smiley. It coincides with my opinion on what it takes to make a marriage work. Here is my list:
Ten Constant Steps toward Being Married Happily Ever After:
- Accept and Respect one another’s differences, and celebrate your areas of sameness.
- Stick by one another – even as you slowly disintegrate.
- Take responsibility for yourself and your actions. Be forgiving.
- Defend one another to a hostile world.
- Be strong in your faith; pray and laugh and play together.
- Be a diligent partner, doing more than your share without bitterness or resentment or complaint.
- Praise one another for the little things.
- Never take one another for granted.
- Always be trustworthy; don’t stab one another in the back!
- Practice the art of compromise – with God as your Constant Guide.
Yes, when all the gold leaf has sort of worn off and you’re each comfortable in your own space, keep the space open and inviting. Invite one another in. Keep on learning to love one another as long as you both shall live.
You’re in this box together. You’re in it for the long haul. Enjoy the ride!
See ya later.
When is the last time
Someone complimented you?
Who? Friend or stranger?
When is the last time
You complimented someone?
Who? Friend or stranger?
Which feels better –
A compliment from a friend
or from a stranger?
When do you speak up
To give out a compliment?
Is it natural?
Or do you have to
Struggle to give compliments?
Do you accept them?
What do you say back?
A simple “Thank You” will do.
Do not disagree.
“Oh, this old sweater?
I’ve had it for a long time.”
Try a humble, “Thanks!”
Speak sincere feelings,
And don’t underestimate
The power of words.
See ya tomorrow!
Happiness is easier to CREATE than it is to FIND.
Love One Another
Love and Appreciate
It’s never too late
Listen and Learn
Find that for which you yearn
Accept and Smile
And go the extra mile
Feel and Do
Do what God has given you
Love and Appreciate
It’s never too late!
Here’s a red rose of love for you.
Thanks for visiting JanBeek.
Tell me something or someone you
are loving right now!
I am loving YOU!!
Have a great week.
See ya tomorrow.
from message based on
“That They May Be One.”
Jesus prayed for Oneness
For each divided sect.
As He is One with God,
He prayed we will show respect.
The ways in which we
Polarize ourselves here
Is tiring. It saddens me.
It brings no one cheer.
All people are more similar
Than different from each other.
We establish boundaries
To separate from our brothers.
We do it to prove that
We are right and we’re accepted.
We name others as losers
And place them outside – rejected.
Jesus prayed that we would just
Love One another – differences and all.
He prayed for our Oneness.
Honor uniqueness; stand tall!
Oneness is not about eliminating
The differences we see.
It’s about loving our uniqueness.
Love your neighbor, even your enemy!
It is about Oneness with God;
It’s a boundary-less love.
It’s only possible with help
From the Divine Source above.
If we call ourselves Christian,
We must stop bickering and be
The loving children our Creator intended.
Love differences; love even me!
Be one with all.
In Christ’s Love we Pray,
JanBeek’s poetic notes
from a sermon
by Rev. Jean Johnson
at the Madison Valley Presbyterian Church
June 2, 2019
What will you do today to demontrate your love for one another?
See you tomorrow
Thanks for joining me on our A-Z journey
to find ways to
Add More Meaning
Discover Clearer Purpose
Today we’ll explore the letters “O” and “P”
Optimism and Positivity
Optimism Brings Positivity!
Or, is it the other way around?
Does Positivity bring Optimism?
I couldn’t separate these two!
Like so many of the concepts we’ve explored in this A-Z series, these two (optimism and positivity) go hand-in-hand.
When you live with the “Positivity Potion” in your life, optimism is a natural by-product!
I am reminded of a story I have read more than once in various places. It’s about an elderly lady who is being guided down the hallway of a nursing home. The CNA (certified nurse’s assistant) says to her, “Your room is at the end of this hallway.”
The lady smiles at her and cheerfully exclaims, “I like it!”
“But you haven’t seen it yet,” the CNA responds.
“Oh, I know, but I like it.”
This lady had more than a sprinkle of acceptance.
She had more than a hint of gratitude.
She lived with more than a feather of hope.
Her positivity potion was overflowing with optimism about life and her future.
She is someone you’d like to have as your roommate
should the day come when you need to move into a nursing home.
These items of advice don’t suddenly become obsolete when you’re retired and don’t have to get up and go to a job every day. In fact, as a person who is aging (aren’t we all?), it is more important than ever that I remain positive in order to be happy.
When I was recovering from a knee replacement and struggling with more pain than I anticipated in the recuperation process, it was more important than ever that I remain positive, keep hope for a better outcome ahead, and work hard to remain happy.
Challenges keep coming.
Life is not a bed of feathery frolicking through the tulips!
It is more important than ever that I continue to work hard
(find meaningful work to maintain a sense of purpose),
and give my days reason to hope.
Not just a feather of hope,
but the whole chirping, red-breasted robin!
I never can let myself become so rigid, and set in my ways, and sure of my own way of doing things that I grow beyond the need to accept criticism. I must always keep learning. With a positive attitude, I can thank the one who offers the criticism – thank him or her for sharing an opinion with me – for caring enough to speak their words of correction. Take it in – try the shoe on and see if it fits! And weigh its merits. Keep learning and looking for ways to improve. Always!
With an attitude of optimism
and a demeanor of positivity,
I will attract happy, warm, and generous people.
And I will be one of them.
What better way to approach my 80th birthday – and the days ahead?
Bring Optimism and Positivity with you into your tomorrows!
Day #17 in my A-Z series on “What Makes Me Happy?”
I like different folks
Not afraid to be quirky
Stand out in the crowd
There is nothing ordinary about my three Swiss grandsons! You just saw the namesake of one of them… and then you met my youngest one … the sushi guy. Both are Christian. But, no, I’m not sure about the Christ-like part. They are named Christian … the first crazy guy was our Swiss AFS exchange student in 1980-81. Our daughter married his first cousin – and later named her third son after him.
Now, before you start judging all those unusual and zany folks, just remember, “We’re all a quirky work in progress.”
Jesus ain’t finished with us yet! And He was a little quirky, too, don’tcha think? Water into wine? Who’d ever done THAT before??
Walking on water?
How quirky can you get?
Such quirkiness is challenging. Folks who are different sometimes want to fit in.
That can be hard. And sometimes heartbreaking! But I say, “Embrace your differences! Celebrate quirkiness!”
Here are all three of those Swiss grandsons. Each is unique. Each is a little quirky in his own way.
Quirkiness makes me happy. It makes the world go round.
What’s quirky about you? Do you love it?? God made you unique.
Just remember, He don’t make no junk!! 🤪