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Hope for Marigolds


I am a member of the Ennis Chapter of TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly). Those initials also might stand for “Take Off Pounds Socially.” As a social being who finds it difficult to remain motivated in isolation, I tried unsuccessfully to take off weight by myself. Seeing the weight creep up over the years so that my size 8 body needed a size 14 to cover it, I had a wake-up call when the 14s were too tight and I realized I might need a 16 if I did any shopping. Hey, I am only 5’1″ and this body was never intended to be more than an 8. Age is not an excuse! Lots of pictures were taken at our 50th wedding anniversary party. When I saw those, I realized pictures don’t lie. I was FAT! I didn’t like the looks of myself. I needed to stop procrastinating and making excuses, stop looking at my obese aunts and rotund paternal grandmother, and telling myself, “You can’t help it. It’s in your genes.” WRONG! My mother avoided excessive weight gain. My father did not become round like his father and mother had. I needed a support group who could help me become accountable – and a program that would teach me to make wiser food choices.

A friend here in Ennis, Montana who is about my height and used to weigh about what I did, encouraged me to join her in the newly formed TOPS group. My friend had lost a pound a week over about 25 weeks. She looked terrific. If she could do it, I decided, I could, too. I joined. That was about a year and a half ago. Today I have reached my 30 pound weight-loss goal and have graduated to KOPS status. I have given away all the size 12s and 14s – and I am determined to live up to the KOPS label: Keep Off Pounds Sensibly. I presented my weight steps “secrets” in a program for my support group today. I titled it “Hope for the Marigolds” and gave a marigold plant to each of the others (5 of them) who also has reached her goal weight.

Here are the “Seven Steps from TOPS to KOPS” that I presented today:


Options ; Choose




Opportunties for







Own your


Decide on



Seven Steps to Being Merry and Reaching the Gold (Reaching your Goals)

1 – Select Healthy Options

2 – Choose Portions Effectively

3 – Find Opportunities for Renewal

4 – Move Actively

5 – Read Inspirational Guidelines **

6 – Own Your Limitations

7 – Decide on Slimness/ Success


** Some of inspirational guidelines that TOPS members are familiar with are the pledge we recite at the beginning of each meeting and the poem we recite at the close of each gathering. They are below.


“I am an intelligent person. I will control my emotions, not let my emotions control me. Every time I am tempted to use food to satisfy my frustrated desires, build up my injured ego, or dull my senses, I will remember, even though I overeat in private, my excess poundage is there for all the world to see. I will TAKE OFF POUNDS SENSIBLY.”

FAREWELL (close of each meeting):

“You take my hand and I’ll take yours
And we’ll start out today.
For a helping hand is what we need
To guide us along our way.
For the road to goal is a rocky path.
We need someone to care.
So, reach out, my friend, and take my hand.
We’ll encourage and we’ll share.”

Unlike some other weigh-loss organizations, TOPS does not end when you have reached your goal. It only costs $5. a month to join the local organization – and an annual dues of $29. for the national membership. It is not only affordable to remain in the group, but it is wise, encouraging, and altruistic. By continuing to belong, members encourage one another, remain accountable to the group, recognize the importance as serving as a role model for others, and keep from slipping back into old habits. TOPS and KOPS are not a diet program. They represent a way of life. Once you have learned a healthier way to live, you won’t want to slip back into those bigger sizes ever again – and you will want to be there to support your new friends, just as they supported you when you were on the path to a better body.

I gave a marigold plant to each of the ladies who had met her goal. I encouraged the others to follow the seven steps being “Merry” and reaching their “Gold” also. I have a marigold for you. Come join us!

KOPS Pledge:

I am an intelligent person. I have controlled my emotions and not let my emotions control me. Every time I am tempted to use food to satisfy my frustrated desires, build up my injured ego, or dull my senses, I will remember that I am to be an example of what TOPS can do, as I KEEP OFF POUNDS SENSIBLY.”


Comments on: "Hope for Marigolds" (4)

  1. TOPS is tops!!!! It sure did wonders for you, ma! I liked WW but it was just too expensive to continue. I sure do like your mantra!

    • Yes, you know it was Grandpa Beekman who inspired me to even think about joining… he and my Ennis friend. Grandpa became a KOPS member – and NOW I know why he was so excited about that accomplishment!

  2. Like most women, at least those who have been through Weight Watchers, know how to weigh their portions and eat fruit and veggies – easy for me, I have life time but that was 40 years ago. I have joined and rejoined never getting passed a certain amount. I live around a lot of stress, this is when I eat, to feel better instant. I struggled and lost slowly with Weight Watchers and lost #25 in about 9 months. I took it slow so I would learn and remember. Being also a social person, Bible Study once a week always offers refreshments. Empty nest of eating out 1-2 times a week is fun and yet sometimes to make a healthy choice. I have continued paying automatic out of my check account monthly. This has kept me aware and accountable to make better choices. Not losing any either.

    I have read your TOPS experience Jan and would love to look into tops and try a new plan which sounds like you can be healthy as well and lose weight. I do want to maintain and not gain after it is all off. I also would gain the benefit of saving myself $40 and add it to savings I have called vacation – I look forward to going on a nice cruise vacation with our family hopefully, next year. What a blessing it would be to go and be proud of myself knowing how hard it was to reach a goal. Two years ago went to Puerto Vallarte with our family for a week, I had just lost 25# and totally felt the difference. I am ready to go to the next phase and weigh less than I have since 1970. Thanks Jan, you have truly inspired me to go to TOPS and give it my all. Coni – hugs to you and Bob too!

    • I was inspired by a local friend, Coni, but also by the history of Turlock TOPS which was so important to my father-in-law back in the 70s. He lost weight and kept it off as a KOPS member for the last 15 (or more) years of his life. I am happy that my story may have inspired you. Give it a try! And do stay in touch. Another helpful resource is MyFitnessPal.com Go there and let’s be accountability partners on-line from CA to MT!! God bless you!

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